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Kink and BDSM dating, 18+

Kink and BDSM dating in California

Meet people who share your interests in California, from Doms and subs to switches and couples. Create a profile in minutes and say who you would like to meet.

Adults 18 and over. Discreet, respectful and consensual.

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Some of our members

  • SympatheticCharmer, 27

    Los Angeles

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    Santa Fe Springs

  • Creamy and juicy, 47

    California City

  • Lakers2020, 51

    Los Angeles

  • Emily, 41

    California City

  • EminentDom, 70

    Los Angeles

  • Delightmistress, 43

    Los Angeles

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    Vibies69, 57

    Moreno Valley

  • Wendy, 36

    California City

  • Raed, 40

    San Francisco

First, who are you?

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And who would you like to meet?

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When were you born?

Please set the year to your own. You need to be 18 or over to join.

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What are you into?

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    How it works

    1. Step 1

      Tell us about you

      Say whether you are a man, a woman or a couple, and who you would like to meet. Then pick the kinks you enjoy, from bondage and roleplay to wax play and latex.

    2. Step 2

      Browse potential matches

      Browse Doms, subs, switches and couples who share your kinks, from bondage and spanking to collaring and dungeon nights. Take your time, and say hello when you are ready.

    3. Step 3

      Upgrade to VIP and meet your matches

      Upgrade to VIP to get in touch with your matches, then meet when you are ready and explore your kinks together.

    Kink, BDSM and consent

    People use these words in different ways. Here is a simple guide.

    • What kink means

      Kink is a broad word for sexual interests beyond the everyday. BDSM, short for bondage, discipline, dominance, submission and sadomasochism, is one part of it.

    • Dom, sub and switch

      A Dom takes the lead, a sub chooses to follow, and a switch enjoys both. Plenty of people find their place over time, and nobody has to pick a label to join.

    • Consent comes first

      Good kink is built on trust and talking things through. Everyone agrees what they are comfortable with, and anyone can stop at any time.

    Kink dating in California

    The Kink Club is a dating site for adults who enjoy kink and BDSM, or are curious about it. It is for singles and couples who want honest, consensual connections.

    Whether you are in Los Angeles, San Diego, San Jose, San Francisco and Sacramento, or somewhere quieter, you can create a profile in California in a few minutes.

    Who The Kink Club is for

    • People who are curious

      You might be new to kink and want to learn at your own pace, with no pressure and no judgement.

    • Experienced Doms, subs and switches

      You know what you enjoy and want to meet someone who respects your limits and takes the same care you do.

    • Couples exploring together

      You want to meet other couples or singles who share your interests and treat consent seriously.

    Questions

    What is the difference between a Dom, a sub and a switch?

    A Dom, or dominant, takes the lead. A sub, or submissive, chooses to follow. A switch enjoys both roles. Nobody has to pick a label to join, and plenty of people find their place over time.

    Do I need experience to join?

    No. Some members have years in the scene and some are only curious. Say where you are on your profile, take it at your own pace, and ask questions. Most people are glad to explain.

    What kinds of kink are members into?

    Everything from bondage, spanking and roleplay to collaring, wax play, latex and dungeon parties. You pick your own interests, so you can find people who enjoy the same things you do.

    What does D/s mean?

    D/s stands for dominance and submission. It describes a relationship or dynamic where one person leads and the other follows. For some people it is part of a scene, and for others it shapes everyday life.

    What is a munch?

    A munch is a relaxed, public meet-up for people in the kink community, usually in a pub or cafe. Nobody plays at a munch. It is a good way to meet people and ask questions.

    Can couples join?

    Yes. You can join as a couple to meet other couples or singles, or you can join on your own. Just choose the option that fits you when you sign up.

    Is it discreet?

    You choose what goes on your profile, and your details are never shown to other members unless you share them.

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